VforVanity

Hey there,

Welcome to a new year. I hope your festive period was filled with joy.

Firstly, I want to congratulate you for making it to 2024, I know that seems odd but it really is a challenge surviving in the modern world. Everyone is very lucky to have you around. It is important to be aware of how lucky we are, making it from one day to the next. Not in a ‘life is hard’ kinda way but in a ‘ wow life is amazing’ kinda way.

Something that I have come across a lot recently is how lost so many people feel. With social media, everything being available to witness all the time can feel super overwhelming. We used to work in and experience things that were around us, now that everything is around us, it’s hard to know what we want.

We also tend to avoid self reflection and hold everyone else accountable for our mindset. The reality is, how we feel and how we view things is our responsibility. Not necessarily our fault but our responsibility. We have to take accountability in order to change anything. Some people have become used to how they feel and don’t want to change but maybe don’t realise. The thing is, if you really want it, you’ll find a way.

Depending on what it is that is holding you back or pulling you down, there are things that can help. Mel Robbins on YouTube, Tony Robbins (not related) also on YouTube, are amazing. They both give great insight into finding ourselves and making the changes we want to make. As long as you do the work, nothing will come of anything if you don’t put the work in.

I often see posts on Facebook that I don’t understand. People will post around Christmas time something along the lines of ‘while enjoying your day with your family, think of all the people who aren’t having a good day’. On the surface it seems thoughtful but it adds to a problem deep within society where some people leave the responsibility of their feelings to others. Say you are having an amazing Tuesday and I’m having a rubbish one, if I can’t be happy for you, then I’m the problem. Where does it end? The people reading those posts could be having the first decent Christmas in years and now you’ve made them feel bad for that. Being completely honest, with the ones I have seen, it’s usually people who don’t make the kindest of decisions in their lives that make those posts too.

Social media is filled with the best parts of peoples lives and not the worst or the reality, this we know. Use this to fire you up to do more in your life and become what you want to become. Everyone experiences peaks and troughs in life, absolutely everyone. It’s our own individual responsibility to manage our mindsets and not anyone else’s.

There are two ways you can view this… ‘Ah I have all the responsibility’. Or…. ‘ Yes, I have all the control’.

When you take accountability and stop blaming other’s (even when it’s their fault) you take back control.

The clear choices you have are, Do you want to wallow? or do you want to take back control and move on? If you want to wallow, thats fine, up to you but you can’t complain about nothing changing if you don’t take control.

There are so many amazing aspects to life you could be missing because you’re weighed down by anger and feeling victimised. Work on forgiveness first, forgive others, forgive yourself, take control and DECIDE to step forward to whatever it is you want. The only thing stopping you is you.