VforVanity

Have you ever spent so long on one path that you couldn’t see the possibility of any other, it wouldn’t even cross your mind? Do you often spend time wondering ‘what if’? What if I chose a different career? What if I met someone different or what if I didn’t end that relationship? Would my life be different now?

I think we’ve all thought about other possibilities and whether or not while on our current path we are reaching our potential and experiencing all we can. The hard truth though, is that our path has nothing to do with it, we are all just very good at finding excuses. We look for reasons that aren’t our fault. Possibly even look for ways to feel victimised. I know that many people go through really difficult times at no fault of their own and everyone is effected by things differently. I am not writing this to take any of that away. I want to help you find your power. I want you to wake up in the morning feeling ready to say no and put yourself first, to also have the power to say and take leaps. What do you want to experience in life? Who do you want to see when you look in the mirror? That person is in there. The reason you are drawn to the things you are drawn to is because it’s who you are. Far too often we start to see ourselves as the person others want to see us as. We become a servant to the people closest to us in order to feel loved an accepted. Usually not knowing that we have become this. All we know is that we are unsettled within ourselves.

If you haven’t made a vision board, I highly recommend it. Spend some time finding images of things that spark joy in you. Even if you are motivated by a celebrity, if there is something about them that you feel you’d like to be, put them on there. You want to sail across beautiful oceans? Put it on there. It doesn’t matter how far reached you feel it is. Put it on there. Place it somewhere you can se it every day.

Let’s talk vulnerability for a minute. We often times step away from situations that make us feel vulnerable, and that is an inbuilt safety measure to protect us from danger. Fortunately we don’t really need it for it’s original purpose anymore and we feel vulnerability emotionally now. People don’t want to step out of the comfort zone due to fear. They don’t want to be rejected, they don’t want to feel embarrassed and they don’t want to feel exposed. There are two choices to make in life. Feel comfortable in your space and never experience what life has to offer. Or feel the fear and do it anyway, exposing yourself, feel vulnerable but do amazing things. There are hardships both ways. Staying in your comfort zone is easier now but harder in the long run and Stepping out there is harder to begin with but easier later. Which would you prefer? I personally feel that while life can hurt, it’s meant to be felt. I would rather chase my passions and take risks than reach the end of my life with regrets, you won’t regret the things you tried but you might regret not trying. However, there is no right or wrong answer. Even within the confines of your comfort zone there will be times you need to vulnerable but remember, you can’t be brave without being vulnerable first. be proud of your vulnerability and bravery, acknowledge your successes here. the more you appreciate your bravery the more you’ll want!

Please ensure that you learn to look after you, remember there is no right way to experience anything but most importantly remember you are powerful and brave by nature and there isn’t anything you can’t do, only things you won’t. Being wrong isn’t as big of deal as we make it. Everyone is wrong all the time and it’s ok. Be brave, get it wrong and be brave again. you’re more than strong enough to handle that. Trust me!

See you on the daisy chain!